My attempt at a summary of Romans 13:14-15:13.
No thing is unclean (sinful) inherently. A thing out of its proper context (too much, too little, at the wrong time, with the wrong person, etc) according to the context God gives it is. The reason we’d partake in anything outside of it’s God given context is because of a lack of trust in God’s word. (“Did He REALLY say…? Did He REALLY mean…?).
So, it is not the sex act done outside of marriage that is the sin, it is the heart attitude that lacks trust in the word of God (sex is for a married couple) that is the sin. Do not decide what is right and wrong on your own. Trust God, who knows and has told us, to tell you. It is not the alcohol, it is the rebellious heart. It is not the distorted electric guitar, or rhythmic drum set, it is the lack of humility and respect for the (usually less tolerant) elderly member of the church.
The line is faith. Are you doing what you are doing (whatever it is that you find yourself doing!) to further magnify The Glory of The Lord Jesus? This is what he asks us to do, whether eating, drinking, working, sleeping, playing, or praying, hugging or Twittering. It is for Him, not for you.
Anyone who imposes their preferences on another is wrong. Do not engage in debates over issues of preference. Give up your preferred way of doing something and do it the way the other prefers (and whoever has the stronger faith between the two of you, give up first.) If it doesn’t build both of your faith up, it’s not worth doing. Find something else to do.
Here is our model: If anyone in the world had the right to impose their preference; to mandate or legislate their way of doing things, it was Jesus. But he did not. Rather he gave up every single preference of his own. Did only what The Father told him to do.
You will say “But that means that the less mature and the most biased in preference will rule the day.” You’re right, and it has always been this way. This happened even to the King of Kings, who humbled himself and gave up his preferences, to the point of people nailing him to planks of wood after torturing him for things he did not do.
The lesson: repent and follow Christ’s example, because we all are those religious hypocrites that demand our own way to the point of murdering God.
And I am the biggest hypocrite. Lord help me.